Nature vs Nurture
What makes us who we are? How did we get this way? Can I really change? We are all born with a particular personality/temperament. In addition to that our childhood experiences in the family of origin and environment together with life’s events shape who we are. Which has more impact on us, nature (personality/temperament/genetics) or nurture (childhood family environment)? This is a continuing debate in the field of psychology. Most clinicians believe it is a combination of both. Pinpointing your particular area of challenge can be remarkably enlightening and empowering.
And yes, you can change.