Change is an Inside Job

 

When life begins to feel unmanageable and you keep doing the same things over and over while expecting different results, you need to make a change.  Changing is an inside job and no one can do it for you, but you.

 

This does not happen without some discomfort.  Facing your demons, dysfunctional behaviors, bad habits and “stinkin’ thinkin’” is never easy.  It takes rigorous honesty.  We don’t always like what is good for us in this world.  But the benefits in looking below the surface are enormous and can last a lifetime.  

 

Acknowledging that change is necessary is the first step.  Reaching out for help is the next.  This is the beginning of your realization of a different path.    

 

Stress and life don’t affect just you but everyone close to you. It is tougher than ever raising a family today.  Things move very quickly and time slips through our fingers.  Caring for partners, children, elder parents, friends and one’s self takes up a huge amount of energy.

 

Difficulty comes when life begins to feel out of balance and chaotic.  How do you rest and recharge?  Is caring for others wearing you out?  What do you do when you get overwhelmed?  What resources or tools do you have?  How do you access your strengths in times of stress?  

 

These are questions to which you may need answers.  You may want to consider talking to someone who will listen without distraction.

 

Here’s the thing, you can live a whole lifetime and know more about others than you do yourself. Make a commitment  to living more comfortably in your life by learning more about what makes you tick.  Your inner life is just as, if not more, important then your outer life.  Therapy could be the kindest thing you do for yourself. Allow yourself the time and space to reflect on your life and goals.

  

© 2020 by Elizabeth Schofield-Bickford, MFT    Jungian Analyst   310.226.7066